Tuesday, December 29, 2015

Counselling in Ipoh at St John Nursing Home 26/12/2015



 
 
 
 
 
 
Counselling in Ipoh 26/12/2015 at St John Nursing Home.
1. Patient: Lee Kok Kee, eldest brother of my good friend, Lee Kok Ngon, who is attached to Boustead Estates Agency.

2. Age: 72.

3. Sickness/Diagnosis: Intestinal cancer.

4. Person doing counselling: James Ho.

5. Lasted 40 mins. Shared my cancer journey with him which started in 2002 and ended in 2004. FULLY RECOVERED.
He looked positive.
Had 2 rounds of chemotheraphy with 4 more to go.

A picture paints a thousand words. Please have a look at the pics & video recordings.

Thank you.

Friday, June 26, 2015

Appreciation from Navin

Gd morn all.

A grateful note from Navin, the 18-year-old boy whom Muthu/Jia Jun/James gave some counselling some 8 months ago in Taman Kempas Utama.

Happy Fathers Day.........
To All My Frenz Lovable n Caring Fathers...
Frenz Juz Sen My Wishes To Ur Dad...  

Tqvm Navin.
How r u?
Take k ya.

Im fine...

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Cheers!

Thursday, February 26, 2015

Parents with 13 years old daughter in love with 18 years old

Background

James Ho received a referral case via telephone from a Lady through Befrienders Johor Bahru Chapter to assist in counselling a 13-year-old girl who has been in love with an 18-years-old boy and both parents has difficulties in communicating with the daughter.
She has also attempted suicide by slashing her wrist with a sharp object twice.

25 Feb 2015

A meeting has been set up at 08:00pm to meet with the parents  first to have a better understanding of the situations.
James Ho, Molly, Muthu and John Ho was present to listen to the parents feed back on her daughter.
During the discussions, the mother also bring to the teams attention her own depression conditions.

The team provided some counselling as well as contacting Dr Kadir of Hospital Permai for the parents to get in touch directly.

The team left after the parents has fixed a date with Molly and Muthu to see the daughter and to listen to her situation.

27 Feb 2015

The Foundation's team of Counsellors(Molly, Ng, Muthu & James) met the 13-year-old girl to hear her side of the story. All went well with laughters and warm pleasantries exchanges all round after the counselling sessions. Molly & Muthu were the main counsellors during the session with Ng & James at the side lines. We shall see how the follow-up sessions evolve.

Message from parent of the 13-year-old girl.

"Hi Mr. James....I heard all of you are there....so nice of you...Thank you, hopefully all of you can help my daughter....Thanks".

Friday, January 23, 2015

Gifts of Sharing and Charity


On 3/9/2011, my family & I attended a fund-raising dinner in Johor Bahru for the under-privileged Indians. They are trying to raise funds for the hardcore poor and the "out-of-the-radar" Indians around Masai & Johor Jaya areas. Indeed, I sponsored RM2,000.00 to buy tables when I heard that an Indian man who died recently did not get to be cremated for 2 days because he had no money for funeral expenses. His body was left in the house for 2 days before someone heard about the predicament and made the necessary arrangements for his body to be cremated. We were the only non-Indians among the some 120 people there. This is 1Malaysia in the real sense!

What was most touching was something very unexpected that happened during the dinner. One of the organizers who knew me said that "someone" found an elderly Indian couple by the bus stop in Skudai(some 18 km away)and they have been waiting there for 4 hours and apparently have nowhere to go. What to do?

We asked the "someone" to get a taxi and take the elderly Indian couple to the place where the dinner was been held. After some 50 minutes, we got a call from the taxi driver that the couple had arrived. I went down and saw 2 short persons with about 6 bags(1 big proper bags & 5 plastic bags with their belongings). The man was about 85 years old and the lady about 65 years old. What touched me most was that the driver(Indian in his mid-thirties) refused to charge for the fare telling me that this gesture was the least he can do. What a man he was! Being a taxi driver, he too was not wealthy but who cares, the old couple's needs were more important than his. God bless our taxi driver!

We invited them to our dinner and helped them to carry their bags upstairs into the dinning area. We quickly sat them down on the table and took some food for them. Woh! The way they swallowed(not eat) the food told us they have not been eating for quite a while. Later, while the Organizers were handing out money to the poor families, this couple also received RM200.00 on that night.

Towards the end of the dinner, it dawned on me where to put the old couple knowing they have nowhere to go. The Organizers announced their plight to all present but there was no response from anyone. It was, at that moment, I quietly spoke to my family members whether it was ok if we take them in. Locating them to some Homes which I know would be too late as it was around 11:15 pm then.

Thank God, with the blessings of my family, we took them home. They poured out their hearts to us. We listened without judging them. We learnt so much from them about life itself. We thank God for choosing us to be the host to the poor. We felt so fortunate, so blessed to be able to house them at least for a night before we arrange a Home for them the next day. It was like welcoming Jesus and Mother Mary into our house. Why God must you choose us - we are sinners and fall short of your expectations. We will never know - we are just being thankful & grateful. You could have chose someone else but why us!

Being Sunday(4/9/2011) the next day, we missed church service as we were busily arranging the Old Folks Home in Masai to accommodate them. All went well and they settled down there.

It was not easy to take a complete stranger you pick up from the street into your house. I know that but it has got to start somewhere, with someone. Our family had done this many times and now we are not afraid to do so when required to do so. The homeless we have in my house before ranged from People Living with HIV/AIDS, drugs addicts, people chased out by their spouses/in-laws(or out-laws now), people who were robbed and have nothing left or people with problems too complex that we shall never be able to comprehend. It takes guts and complete faith in God to be able to do this. For I know it is stated somewhere in the Bible that we have to do this but ..................reading the Bible is one thing and doing what the Bible tells us to do is entirely a different thing all together by itself.

Give it a try - no pain, no gain. We only live once. Go for it! The joy you receive is immeasurable compared to what this world has to offer. Nothing comparable to be able to help someone who is so desperate. I always imagine I was the one needing help and someone pulled me out of this shit! What gratitude, what a feeling!

It must be the spirit encouraging me to write this at this point in time. Any help you think you can render to this "special couple", please let me know as we are following up on them when we visit them in Masai Old Folks Home from time to time.

We shall tell this story to you all when we meet in person. God bless all!

Warmest regards,
James Ho

Mental Health In Disaster Response Workers



Notes given by Ministry of Health when James Ho & Molly Liew was called by Hospital Permai, Tampoi, Johor Bahru to assist in counselling MH370 air disaster victims in Hotel Bangi, Putrajaya on 8th April, 2014.   






















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